Dating

Hello There My Lovelies,

If you are happily married or taken, you should never take that for granted. Treat your spouse well and live happily ever after.

If you are single and searching, then you know how difficult or awkward dating can be. I have had great dates, dates where I made mistakes, and dates where the guy was a total frog. It's definitely been enough to help me form a strong opinion of what I want, and what I don't want. And I know that it's not over yet, until I meet Mr. Right.

I also know that while I would love for him to walk in my life, I still have a few things to learn and I am still not quite ready. It took me a long time to even understand that, which is a huge step in the right direction.

I have to say that while I have gone out with a lot of frogs and made my share of dating mistakes, I am glad that it happened. Without that, I don't think I could've formed a clear idea of what I really want in a relationship.

I remember when I was a teenager growing up and entering high school. I was a late bloomer and started thinking about boys then. I knew that I was innocent and naive because of the way I grew up.

I started praying around that time for God to bring my someone special that I could cherish for the rest of my life. I also told him that I didn't understand all of the drama in the dating world and why women bashed men all the time and vice versa. Since I was sheltered I didn't understand all of the drama. I asked God to help me understand the differences between men and women. Basically, I asked for God to enlighten me. Deep down, I didn't really want to enter a marraige as a young woman without a clue, even if the man was good, because I wouldn't have known the difference.

I didn't want to marry the first guy who proposed. I have a couple of friends who only know one man and don't know what's out there.

If I had gotten involved or married earlier, such as in my early twenties, I wouldn't have had the chance to become independent. These last couple of years on my own have been real crucial. I also wouldn't have been able to cherish the relationship. I would've taken it for granted, felt insecure due to a lack of independence and taken all of my insecurities out on him.

I didn't want to be a woman involved in a long, unfulfilled marraige for years that eventually gets divorced in her middle age and has to start all over. I have talked to a lot of women in that situation and they tell me how difficult it is.

I've thought that God has been punishing me all these years, but really He's giving me the opportunity to correct my mistakes so that I stop making the wrong choices and start making better choices. It's been a long road, but at least I can see the light.

Without all this "me time" I wouldn't have had a time to develop an opinion of what I want in a man. I would've just fallen for the first man that came along and followed his idea of what a good relationship is.