TMI Tuesday: What Kind of Date Would I Be ?

What's Up My Little Flower Petals ?

So, I stole this blog from H, a big Dutch dude that reads my blog, so I am posting the questions and my answers below. Please feel free to snake them for me.......

1. You’re on a speed date. You’ve got 7 minutes with the potential partner. You already know the person’s name. What are the first three questions you would ask?



1. Are you married ?
2. Do you have any children ?
3. Do you have a job?

If we make it that far, then I would love to know his hobbies........

2. Have you ever participated in speed dating? Did you get a regular date/second date out of it?

No, but I think it would be a fun thing to do with my girlfriends. I certainly wouldn't take it seriously.


3. Do you participate in online dating? How many dates have you had as a result of online dating sites/matches?

I used to over three years ago, I don't remember how many dates I had because of it, but it is so easy for girls to get tons of dates via the internetz.


4. You are attracted to: 
a. Who people are?

Where do I start ? Latino or Middle Eastern, or form a different background and is connected to his culture, tall (or taller than me which isn't hard to do at all)


b. What people have?

Intelligent, nice pecs and biceps, full head of hair


c. What they can do?

Can he be single and chivalrous ?


5. What “little red flag” will cause you to end a date or immediately decide this person isn’t for you?

If he is married and btw that is a HUGE red one.


6. What do you feel you need to sacrifice or have sacrificed to be a part of a relationship?

If I met the man of my dreams, I would learn to compromise and cook !


7. If you cooked for your date, what would you cook?

Haha, in the past the men I've dated have been better cooks than I, so I didn't really have to. However, I would learn his favorite dish for him.


8. At the end of a first date, how would you kiss your date?

Depends on the date, and I don't kiss and tell...........


Bonus: You just put up a profile on a dating site. You must describe yourself in 10 words or less. What are your 10 words?

I don't use adjectives to describe myself on a dating site. I post my pictures in addition to a witty line or two cuz honestly, they rarely read what I write anyway.

Happy Labor Day !

Happy Labor Day Loves !

I hope you are enjoying the holiday ! I am just lounging around, and I am about to finish the dishes and laundry.

The ten year anniversary for 9/11 is coming up and I am so very disappointed in New York Mayor Bloomberg.

A memorial is planned at the WTC site, but only the victims, families of the deceased and politicians are invited. I can't believe that the first response members such as the fire fighters, EMT and cops are not invited. All due to space contraints.

I verified this on snopes.

Bloomberg said that there would be a separate service for them at later date and location ? (But no dates were given) WTF ? I don't think there should be a memorial service without them present. I think the mayor has totally missed the point. I will not be watching the memorial service on TV.

Had the fire fighters, cops and EMT members NOT been present on 9/11/01, there would be more of a space issue because the would be way more victims. So disappointing.

What's also disappointing, is that religious services are taken out of the ceremony. People turned to God/religion during this time, and now the Mayor wants to get politcal ? Is he doing this to exclude Islamic services ? So that if there are no Christian or Jewish prayers, that Islamic services can't be offered either to keep it equal? I don't know. I think he's excluding relgion as to not offend the Muslim community.

Personally, I would like to see different religous services offered to show that we are still United as a country and embrace peace.

Anyway, I am stepping off my soap box. I had a whole nother post planned, but I felt that I just had to say my peace here.

Besitos !

TMI Tuesday

What's Up My Little Cherries ?

I snaked this little bloggy quiz from Hedone. (I'm way too lazy to include the link). But if you like this, please feel free to snake if from me.

1. What's the most annoying song in the world?

"Laffy Taffy"  by D4L. I would rather listen to Rebecca Black !

2. What's the saddest song in the world?

"Adam's song" by Blink 182, it talks about suicide, and it is heart wrenching.

3. What's the sexiest song in the world?

"I like it" by Moby.  OR J'taime moi non plus" by Jane Birkin & Serge

4. Name a new, to you, band or music artist that you can't get enough of?

My latest favorite artist is Inna, who sings trance.

In Bellydance, I have a bunch of new songs, that I can't even pronounce because I don't speak Arabic.

5. Have you met any famous musicians?

I met Natacha Atlas, who is a Middle Eastern singer when she toured in Europe.

6. What song best describes your life?

"Ironic" by Alanis Morrisette

7. How important is your partner’s taste in music to you?

Not that important............. I tend to look after more important things like.... Is he married ? Does he have children I don't know about ? Does he have a job ?

8. Do you sing in the shower?

Yeah, I totally do, and in the car !

9. What was the last live music show you attended? Did you buy a T-shirt?

The last live music show I attended was in San Francisco with a very talented Middle Eastern band at a Bolivian restaurant. And I was there because I bellydanced while they played. Soooo fun, and no shirts were being sold !

10. What's the sweetest song in the world?

I just can't think of one right now......

11. Can you play a musical instrument?

No, I can't even read music....................

12. Are you in a band or are you a performing solo music artist? If yes, what kind of music do you play?

No, but I do enjoy dancing to a good live Middle Eastern band !



13. Have you ever dated a musician?

Yes

14. Are you a groupie?

No............

Bonus, Bonus: If you listen to the radio, what station and type of music are you tuned to the most?

I listen to the pop channel, alternative station and latin station.

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What's Up My Little Hearts ?

Miss Me ?

It's been almost a month that I've been back from vacay, and I still have so much to write. I had a wonderful time in Austria and Amsterdam.

Okay so enough trip talk. Let's talk about love !

What if I told that you could get any man or woman that you want ? That if you pay me money and do exactly what I tell you that you could land the sweetheart of your dreams ?

What if you actually believed me ? I would tell you to keep your money because there is no way I could promise to deliver such a thing. I think it is interesting how there are a lot of "love gurus" that promise to help you seal the deal.

You may not always get what you want because the other person you are after has free will, and has a say in the matter too ! I feel most "experts" fail to mention that and act like it is all in our control. I feel like most dating advice out there is about manipulating others into going out with us, that they fail to teach us how to relate and get to know others.

There are so many books and relationship experts out there that promise results. They tell you what scents to wear, how to act, how to play hard to get, how to get him to propose and the list goes on..............

And yet, there are still so many people who have read all of the above out there with no love in their lives. I've read a lot of books. Here is some of the advice I've read from various sources in no particular order.

-- Men love bitches. Be polite, but don't always make yourself so available. Don't cook for him in the beginning, and don't be so available. Always leave him guessing where you are.

-- If a man doesn't marry you in one year of dating two years tops, then he will never marry you.

-- Make him wait for sex or he won't respect you. Make him wait at least 90 days.

--Men go crazy over vanilla scents. You can't go wrong with vanilla.

-- Don't pick up the phone on the first call.

-- Men love straight hair, they don't like it curly

--If you want to marry him and he is not sure about you, give him an ultimatum.

-- All men love sex, and what works for one man will work for the next one. It is so easy to please a man.

-- Wear heels.

-- All men love boobs.

--All men are crazy about sex

-- Just cook for him and he will fall in love with you.

-- Never call a man

--Men should always pursue women

--Women should never pay for a date

Some of the advice is very good, and I believe in some of it, others, not so much ! For example, I strongly believe in never paying for a date, as a woman. I always believe the men should pay. But there are some women out there who don't mind, and actually feel more liberated when they pay for their share, and it works for them !

If I had to give love advice, I would tell you that each man is different, and like women, they can't be lumped together in one category. Most relationship authors/experts that give love advice act that all men are the same, and that if we act one way, that we can land any man. I don't think it works that way.

 Contrary to the listed advice above, I've met a lot of people who are happily married now, but dated for over 5 years and may have broken up in between. A LOT of men love curly hair, I've received a lot of compliments on my wavy hair. And since I'm in the Bay Area, boobs aren't as in as they used to be. It's all about the ass where I live. Most men I know would rather take a round, plump ass over a great rack anyday. So I am confused as to why women are getting breast implants, when I see men staring at asses way more than the boobage.

So what advice can I give you ?

--Obviously use common sense, but all I can tell you is to be yourself. If you are yourself and he is still not interested, then he is not the one for you. You may possibly be crazy, and if that is who you are, you need a man who is crazy as you are, or a man that like craziness.

--All the advice out there may be helpful in you getting more dates, but if the guy isn't right for you, then it just delays the inevitable breakup.

And also, there are books and "love gurus" out there that like to throw tough love in your face and tell you that if you are still single, it is your fault, and that you aren't using the Law of Attraction in your favor. They tell you about affirmations, and that if you do your daily affirmations, that it will come to you, and then a bunch of women talk about how Mr. Prince Charming walked into their lives soon after.

The Law of Attraction may be true, and even though it may be, that is a small percentage of why you may be single and looking.

So the only tried and true thing I can tell you is to be yourself, because when you are in your element doing what you love, you become happy and confident, and men notice that. While you are busy being yourself, get to know the man you are dating. When he is talking about himself, listen carefully and see if he is your type of guy. Every guy is different, and get to know what makes him unique.

So that is all for now, lovelies !

Besitos !

Vacation

Hello There Kittens !

I am sorry that I have been a bad bloggy friend. I am currently on vacation right now. I was in NYC, now I am leaving later today for Amsterdam for a couple of days and then Austria to visit my family.

There has been a massive heatwave here in NYC, and for the first couple of days I had no AC. Long, cold showers were my friend.

I will have to post more when I get back, but here are some things that I did........

-- Experienced the NYC bus, metro and train system....... I went to Grand Central where Sprint has the commercial of the guy doing the Flash Mob dance at the wrong time. That was all I could think about while I was there.

--Stayed in Little Italy in the Bronx, great food by the way....... Had a wonderful Italian dinner, as well as Chinese food.....

-- Went to Central Park as well as Times Square. Took lots of pictures, and I also had a NY pretzel.

-- Went to the M&Ms store in Times Square, I also had a drink at an Irish pub there. I accidentally spilled my drink on my friend, but the bartender (who was hot btw) poured me another one gratis !!!

I have to say thank you to my friend, Henry who went out of his way to make sure I had fun in NYC, and looked out for my well-being.

Anywhooters, time to get my laundry out of the dryer and think about packing for my next leg of the journey.

Besitos !!!!