Matchmaker Millionaire

Hello Again My Lovelies,

If you are as big of a TV whore as I am, then you probably have watched the show Matchmaker Millionaire with Patti Stanger.

I really love that show, it's my favorite. Defintely entertaining to say the least. And I like her for the most part. We have the same birthday.

Basically she runs a dating club for millionaires and charges them an insane amount of money to hook them up. She claims she is very successful and has a huge ego. I love watching her be honest with men and women on the show. She doesn't hold back. Sometimes guys and girls need to be called out.

-If men in their forties are looking for women in their twenties to settle down and have babies with.
- Women that try to sneak the man's number to get a sloppy seconds date, when the man didn't chose her for the main date.
- Men that immediately propose marriage, tell the woman to move in and then don't end up buying the ring or marrying her.

I have watched her show, and read her book. Boy is the book interesting. She makes a lot of good points and for the most part gives good dating advice. (which by the way is common sense)

-- Don't talk about the ex, politics on the first date, ect.... yada yada yada
--Don't have sex with him if you're serious about him unless you're in an exclusive monogamous relationship.
--Don't move in with the guy unless you're at least engaged, have the ring and a date set.
-- Yes, looks do matter and chemistry is important.
--Don't accept a date at the last minute, don't be someone's sloppy seconds. It is better to be home in your pajamas than out with someone who really isn't that into you.

While she is experienced and does give out good advice, I definitely see some flaws with her. But on the other hand, none of us are perfect. We all have good advice that we should follow, but we don't. Apparently this woman isn't any different.

-- She claims that she is a third generation matchmaker and that it's in her blood. Okay, she is adopted and her adopted mother and grandmother were the matchmakers. She may have learned a lot growing up, but she shouldn't bring geneology into it.

--She preaches that women who want to get married should give the men a year. She claims that if men don't marry them within a year or two, that they aren't serious about marriage, and that the women should move on.

She says that men tend to be creatures of habit and that if your boyfriend doesn't propose to you, you should politely move on. And because he's a creature of habit, he'll most likely realize the error of his ways and come back to you. I see it differently. While I think that may work sometimes, it is still a huge gamble. Patti never once mentioned the resentment the man could feel for the ultimatum, or maybe the man needs a little more time. If a man is not ready for marriage, he may agree to marry you, but that resentment could come later down the road in the marriage. She never mentioned that, and she never told the woman what to do if he left her instead of marrying her, and how she could pick up and move on after that.

What I find so interesting is that she was been with her boyfriend for 5 years and he still won't marry her. She claims that she is too busy to think about marriage, but I know that is a bullshit line. If a woman wants to get married and the man wants to marry her, she doesn't use work as an excuse.

Her employee on the show also moved in with her boyfriend after the third date.

I find it interesting that she gives her clients a list of rules, but she and her staff can't even follow them.

The thing that gets me the most is her talking about how she is doing such a wonderful deed and that she is racking up credits in heaven for it. Talks about all the good karma she is getting. That actually almost pisses me off.

So yeah, she is providing a good service, but you know what ? It's strictly business. She charges between $25,000- $150,000 per year. If I pay that much, I better get a man, lol. I think it's disgusting that she appears on TV a show, talks about how much money she charges the men, and then calls it "God's work".

I respect her for getting paid that much money and I think she is a good business woman, but she is definitely no saint. If she really wanted to rack up points, she would do this off a TV show and do it at a much lower price or for free. Business is not "God's Work", it's business.

Just pretend I am on vacation !!

Hello There My Lovelies,

So today is Saturday, and I currently am not fond of Saturdays because I have Bankruptcy Law for about four hours in the morning. Me no likey.

I was looking forward to today's class because the teacher was supposed to talk about the project. I really needed her to explain the project. Basically, I have to file two bankruptcies for two different people, enter in data into software and write up motions and notices. The instructions for the project are so long, about 22 pages. It's a time consuming project.

She just handed us the project last month and told us to get started early on it and gave us a little speech about how we should start figuring things out early. The problem was that she didn't bother to explain anything.

Today was really no different. Aside from explaining a few details, she told us that we should just explain our answers in the memo if we weren't sure. Basically, take a guess if we don't know the answer. So the laws are complicated, but we should just take a guess !! Her spiel was "Just pretend I went on vacation for a week and am not available to answer your questions." She then blathered on about working in a law firm the real world and how many times we are left to figure things out by ourselves. Like she is doing us some favor by not explaining the project. Every other teacher I've had in the program had no problem talking to me when I asked them questions. In fact, they were happy because they took it as a sign that I was interested in their classes and wanted to do well.

Just brilliant. So basically she just bs'ed her way out of explaining the project to us by giving us some life in the real world speech. I don't buy that shit, I think she just didn't want to talk abou the project.

I've worked for free in the legal environment and pretty much had to figure almost everything out on my own. I've dealt with attorneys who didn't want to answer my questions because they didn't feel like it or simply didn't have time. But I dont' think I should deal with it in the classroom. In the classroom, teachers should answer questions !!! Especially when it deals with the law.

I thought the whole poing of going to school is to learn and ASK QUESTIONS and actually get them answered. Then go out in the real world with the knowledge gained in the classroom and start figuring things out on your own.

On another note, at least I understood more of the lecture today. That is a good sign, which means that I will have a better chance of getting a good grade on the final which I so desperately need.

Moving on out.......

Hello There My Lovelies,

So today I started moving my stuff to my new place. It's a slow process. Tommorow I will get a storage and then move half my stuff out on Sunday.

I also got to practice a little more dance. I wasn't really feeling it today, so I guess you could say that I had an off day, but at least I danced.

I am just waiting for the move and for school to be over. Once that happens, then I can think about getting back to my internship and looking for a job in the legal field.

Tired

Hello All,

Just a quick update........

I had fun at last night's concert. I didn't understand a single word, and the entire thing was in Russian, but I did enjoy the music. Standing in a crowd and sweating profusely with people screaming and whistling into my eardrums wasn't my cup of tea, but I still managed to have a good time. I felt like I learned a little bit more about the culture. I did enjoy dressing up though.

At the event I felt like I was back in Europe circa 1990. Women still wear mini skirts, leggings, black shiny boots, mullet hair styles, red lipstick....... And men still sport leather jackets and smoking is in style.

On another note, I have less than a month of school left. Honestly, I am looking forward to when I don't have class, and I am not worried about moving. Then I can focus on finding a legal job. I know that they are out there.

I did get my transcript in the mail, so now I can apply for graduation.

And I also need to remind myself to pay that traffic ticket before a warrant gets issued..........

Okay, that is all for now.

My Russian Side

Hello There My Lovelies,

Okay, so I am going to a Russian concert tomorrow with an old classmate. She was nice enough to invite me. She's from Russia and knows that I want to learn the language and the culture and is really gracious about teaching me. After she came back from Moscow she brought me a beautiful Russian doll. She is also a member of our paralegal group. Our group gets together once a couple of months, and she is really the only nice, friendly, outgoing one.

I have a Russian last name, and a Russian cousin named Vladymir (same last name as me) that I've never met. My stepmother was also Russian. But other than that, I really have no connections to the country or the culture.

My great-grandparents came here 100 years ago from Russia into New York through Ellis Island. They were Jewish and also spoke Yiddish. Unfortunately no one really knows much about them. But I would love to go to Ellis Island one day. My friend Henry lives in New York and has promised to take me there when I can make the trip.

However, my grandpa Max did provide a little insight into their lives. He died in 2006. As I was recently going through a box of letters, I found a nice fat envelope he sent me in 1997 while I was in high school. It contained a stack of papers he typed to me about his life as a young boy and his parents. I almost forgot about it.

I am so glad I held onto it, as it's really the only link I have into the past about them. I was lucky enough to know my great grandmother (American), as she lived until she was 102. Plus, everyone in the family had stories about her, especially my dad. My dad was very close to her.

But no one really knows about my Russian great-grandparents, Morris and Paulina. I believed that they died in the 1960s.

From what I know about Paulina, she was a strong-willed woman that loved to boss my great-grandpa, Morris around. She used to tease him for being such a weak man. He always teased her about being a peasant and getting her hands dirty, and dirt underneath her fingernails. She had blue-eyes, and was determined to get what she wanted. I was reading about her saucy attitude, and now I understand where I got it from, lol. (But I don't boss men around, lol)

I also read about them owning a candy shop together. A man came in once and bought her candy. She graciously accepted it, smiled, and after he left, she dropped it right back into the candy bin, lol. She was very business oriented.

One thing my grandpa wrote in there was that when they moved to Long Beach, Paulina was trying to convince Morris to invest in land, and he declined, taunting her for wanting to get her hands dirty, and calling her a peasant. Well, it turns out that the land that the didn't purchase was later drilled for oil, and they could've been very wealthy. Paulina was livid. She eventually left him, but when he died, she was there for him and made sure that my grandpa and his siblings paid their respects.

Interesting stories.

My mom's side of the family did a wonderful job in teaching me about Austrian culture. But I still feel like I haven't really gotten a chance to learn about my Russian side. But the Russians I have met are happy to enlighten you about their culture.

I did go out with a Russian soccer player once. Nice guy, I met him in the library when I was at the university, and we went out a couple of times. It was with him that I discovered my favorite hookah lounge. Unfortunately, it didn't last long. I broke it off because I went to Spain that summer for a year. Also, I was too scared to get into a relationship. I just wasn't ready, and didn't know how to act. Looking back, I wish I would've given him more of a chance.

Anywho, enough reminiscing for now. I am looking forward to tomorrow's concert.