Matchmaker Millionaire

Hello Again My Lovelies,

If you are as big of a TV whore as I am, then you probably have watched the show Matchmaker Millionaire with Patti Stanger.

I really love that show, it's my favorite. Defintely entertaining to say the least. And I like her for the most part. We have the same birthday.

Basically she runs a dating club for millionaires and charges them an insane amount of money to hook them up. She claims she is very successful and has a huge ego. I love watching her be honest with men and women on the show. She doesn't hold back. Sometimes guys and girls need to be called out.

-If men in their forties are looking for women in their twenties to settle down and have babies with.
- Women that try to sneak the man's number to get a sloppy seconds date, when the man didn't chose her for the main date.
- Men that immediately propose marriage, tell the woman to move in and then don't end up buying the ring or marrying her.

I have watched her show, and read her book. Boy is the book interesting. She makes a lot of good points and for the most part gives good dating advice. (which by the way is common sense)

-- Don't talk about the ex, politics on the first date, ect.... yada yada yada
--Don't have sex with him if you're serious about him unless you're in an exclusive monogamous relationship.
--Don't move in with the guy unless you're at least engaged, have the ring and a date set.
-- Yes, looks do matter and chemistry is important.
--Don't accept a date at the last minute, don't be someone's sloppy seconds. It is better to be home in your pajamas than out with someone who really isn't that into you.

While she is experienced and does give out good advice, I definitely see some flaws with her. But on the other hand, none of us are perfect. We all have good advice that we should follow, but we don't. Apparently this woman isn't any different.

-- She claims that she is a third generation matchmaker and that it's in her blood. Okay, she is adopted and her adopted mother and grandmother were the matchmakers. She may have learned a lot growing up, but she shouldn't bring geneology into it.

--She preaches that women who want to get married should give the men a year. She claims that if men don't marry them within a year or two, that they aren't serious about marriage, and that the women should move on.

She says that men tend to be creatures of habit and that if your boyfriend doesn't propose to you, you should politely move on. And because he's a creature of habit, he'll most likely realize the error of his ways and come back to you. I see it differently. While I think that may work sometimes, it is still a huge gamble. Patti never once mentioned the resentment the man could feel for the ultimatum, or maybe the man needs a little more time. If a man is not ready for marriage, he may agree to marry you, but that resentment could come later down the road in the marriage. She never mentioned that, and she never told the woman what to do if he left her instead of marrying her, and how she could pick up and move on after that.

What I find so interesting is that she was been with her boyfriend for 5 years and he still won't marry her. She claims that she is too busy to think about marriage, but I know that is a bullshit line. If a woman wants to get married and the man wants to marry her, she doesn't use work as an excuse.

Her employee on the show also moved in with her boyfriend after the third date.

I find it interesting that she gives her clients a list of rules, but she and her staff can't even follow them.

The thing that gets me the most is her talking about how she is doing such a wonderful deed and that she is racking up credits in heaven for it. Talks about all the good karma she is getting. That actually almost pisses me off.

So yeah, she is providing a good service, but you know what ? It's strictly business. She charges between $25,000- $150,000 per year. If I pay that much, I better get a man, lol. I think it's disgusting that she appears on TV a show, talks about how much money she charges the men, and then calls it "God's work".

I respect her for getting paid that much money and I think she is a good business woman, but she is definitely no saint. If she really wanted to rack up points, she would do this off a TV show and do it at a much lower price or for free. Business is not "God's Work", it's business.