Friday, October 22, 2010

I Was Happier Without It

Hello My Little Kittens !

How was your week ?

As you know I got a Facebook. I broke down because my friend in Amsterdam convinced me to get one, he was the one that pushed me over the edge so to speak. Also, my Mama Cita has been asking me for a while now.

I found a lot of people that I haven't seen for a while. But the best thing that happened to me was that I found a distant cousin from Russia who my Aunt told me about. Nice guy and he has a lot of memories with my grandfather that I want to hear about.

I also found my other half (girl I used to work with at Red Lobster with my name) and we can catch up now. She up and moved to Vegas 8 years ago and has done well for herself.

What else....................... I have gotten to see you, my readers and learn your names. It is always nice to put names to the faces and personalities. When you blog, it's just you, but it's nice to learn about your families and what your day-to-day life is like. And write dirty messages on your walls.

Did I tell you I reconnected with a few dancers I used to dance with ? Us bellydancers, you know who we are, we love to post our photos of us in motion.

While Facebook has helped me connect, I am still not completely comfortable with it. For starters, it is addicting. I have this blog, and adding Facebook to the mix is exhausting especially when I work fulltime and have a parttime job. I would rather blog. Here, we take the time to write longer entries instead of posts, we put more energy into this and into getting to know other bloggers. Not so much on Facebook.

The internet really makes you disposable. I write people that have asked me to join Facebook or have asked me to friend them and they don't write back. I talked to an old classmate in the same field and professional circles as me and wrote him detailed messages on who he can contact to apply for legal positions since he is looking for a job and he just decided not to write back.
And I know the people above have been on Facebook because they continue to post on their walls. Otherwise I would give them the benefit of the doubt.

Before Facebook, I just communicated with friends over the phone or by e-mail and it was fabulous. My summer social calendar was full. I went dancing, worked out, went to peoples' houses and all without Facebook. I traveled to Europe and met wonderful people that don't even have a profile on FB.The people that really mattered were in my life because we made efforts to stay in contact and it was a joint effort. And if that means I only interact with a handful of people vs hundreds of "friends" then I am okay with that.

I think I am giving myself another week or two, a month tops. Besides, most of my family up there don't even check their profiles that often. They are busy traveling, caring for newborns, or taking care of family. I am going to get the proper contact info of people I've reconnected with and bolt.

This blog is a better idea. People that really care visit this blog. I've given this address out a LOT, 90% of those people never make it over here. And I would prefer that to being ignored on Facebook.

Sorry my little furballs, just had to vent. I will dish out the snark and sarcasm another time.

Besitos !


Riot Kitty said...

I don't do Facebook and don't see what the attraction is. If I want someone to know where I am, they do. If I want to communicate with a friend or family member, I do.

Plus I really like privacy.

Fireblossom said...

I agree with RK. If I want to be found, I'll make it easy. If I don't, then I don't. There is a reason why the people who are no longer in my life, aren't.

No Facebarf for this little chica. It's a time suck. Plus all that stupid "Jane Doe sent you a flower!" stuff. People are forever asking me to get on there, but no thanks. I'll stick with blogging.

Big Mark 243 said...

The internet makes you disposable. So true. Out here people get to leave the shells of there sad, depressing lives and get to create the image of the person they could never be.

With a blog, whether real or not, you do get the feeling that you have connected with someone and that people really care. I know that is how I blog and that I don't have nearly as much invested in Facebook. After my sister's wedding next month, it will be a dicey proposition for me to keep it going. Very few people read or bother to address my inane status updates... I do feel if someone who I know really wants to know how I am doing, they'd call.

Alpha Za said...

Facebook is awesome though... :(

but you make your point well :)

mac said...

Yeah, but.
But now I know your name, and I can bug the shit out of you over there ;-)

Candace said...

I'm right there with you. I have a profile on FB, but de-friended everyone except those people that I was happy to reconnect with. My friends and family - if they're really my friends, FB shouldn't be our only form of contact!

Kerrie said...

The jury is out for me on Facebook but I like to keep the two seperate.( Facebook for family and blogger for my friends I can reveal anything to ). I did stop Facebook for a while as started getting addicted to ridiculous time eating games.

Jimmy's Journal said...

I'm on facebook and it's been great to be able to locate old friends I haven't seen since high school. The people who are on FB 24/7 really need a hobby, though.

Good post! I'll look for you on FB!


Ms. Jenni [xo] said...

If you don't take FB too seriously, it can be fun. Plus it's a great way to stay in touch with people you don't see often (or just moved 3000 miles away from.. like me - heh).

natalie said...

dear Senorita
Please come and visit me at Lurkynat and leave a comment!
I loved this entry very interesting
this idea of face book and wo it attracts..and doesn't!
hugs, natalie

Danielle said...

I don't use Facebook very much either. I only really check it if I have a request or message. I do love to look at peoples pictures though.
I am nosey!

Red Shoes said...

I have a facebook page... I have it mostly to stay in touch with my daughter. I don't post every little thing on facebook like I do on blog...

I don't think the internet in itself makes us disposable... how many people in 'real life' just disappear?

I do think net applications demonstrate how disposable we are more clearly...


The Reason You Come said...

When one gets addicted to Facebook, it's time to withdraw. I found myself checking my account more than a few times a day and felt that was too much. It was such a waste of time. I deactivated it. I'm enjoying this Facebook-free existence at the moment. Besides, I would rather blog.

That being said, I probably would reactivate it. After all, I did reconnect with high school and college friends through it. Our high school reunion would not have been possible if not for Facebook, because that was how the organizers found us. But I don't miss it yet. And like I said, I'd rather blog.