Friday, January 21, 2011

It may come true, or you may just your ass kicked.

What's Up My Little Bananna Splits ?

So I've been spacing in and out of blogland, but I am back. Or at least for now. Thank you for all your well wishes ! It means a lot that you care.

So here in my blog, I write about whatever the hell I feel like. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's serious. This year I would like to do more reviews on things, like books, products, experiences.......

So here goes.........

Today I will be reviewing Tarot Card Readings. I do get flamed by some for getting them,. but whatever. I don't just randomly chose the reader. I get referrals from people I trust and that is how I make my decision.

I've seen the same person for the past few years. I trust the person who referred me, and the reader did a great read for the person who referred me. I got my first reading from her in 2007, and she got me through a really difficult time and most of the things she said came true.

So last year in January (2010)I got another reading. One of the things she kept mentioning was that there would be a new man in my life that year. Maybe not the first guy I drew in, but definitely the man I would spend the rest of my life with. She described him as olive-skinned, he was a writer for his job but did something else as his career, had a heart of gold, looooved to travel........

So the first half of the year passed and I met no men whatsoever. I did meet someone during the summer, but he lived too far away. I met another guy on Halloween, and we saw eachother for a couple of months, but I eventually broke it off  in December because I was not really into him. It was hard to do, but I did it.

Once I resigned myself to the fact that 2010 would be another year passing me by with no one special and felt confident about the next year, I got an e-mail from a guy from a travel website that I am a part of.

This guy just moved to my area and wanted to know if I would like to meet up with him to learn how to play shuffleboard or go salsa/merengue dancing. I looked at his profile and loved reading about all of the things he had done. Then he added me on Facebook, and I saw all of his travel pictures and read about his

I really loved his pictures and his profile and he was handsome. Not the stereotypical handsome, but my specific type of handsome. This guy traveled all over the world, and did things I would only dream about. He was into volunteering, he had wonderful references on his travel site from people about what an excellent host he was, he seemed to have an upbeat personality. He was also a writer, but has a law degree and recently stopped practicing. On paper he was everything I was looking for.

Then it clicked.

That must be the guy ! So I figured, I would give him a chance. I haven't met any men I've been remotely attracted to in a few years anyway and I was really attracted to this guy and felt we had a lot in common.

He contacted me in the middle of December and in the beginning he seemed eager to meet, was polite. I gave him my number and told him to call me.

He never called me. And I wasn't going to call him either.

We did meet up, about a month after he first wrote me, but he never called but he would message me and say that he was busy but would keep in touch, and that he was excited to see me and looked forward to getting to know me in the new year.

 We finally met a week and a half ago. He contacted me through Facebook and he invited me to have drinks at a bar. Originally he was excited about teaching me how to play shuffleboard and going dancing ( love going dancing) but when we met, he just wanted to drink.

He invited me to one of the cheapest bars in town. I read the reviews, and they had the nastiest bathroom in town, apparently. I decided to just go with the flow and have a drink. While we were talking, he would ask me questions like: Why do you have a gap in your tooth ? Why do you blink your eyes a lot ? And when I told him why, he didn't believe me and questioned me further. He was very polite about how he asked me, so I didn't mind it so much ( I am not to self conscious about those things anyway), but still...... awkward !

He was also about 20-30 minutes late. I texted him what time I would be there and he still was late.

After I told him I didn't really like to drink, we went to the hookah lounge, but he complained about not having enough money and told me to chose the cheaper option.

He was agressive in making moves on me. When I pulled away he started asking what it was about ?

Basically, this guy was a total jerk, and the date ended in the most awkward way ever.

So yeah, I got my ass kicked.

But would I get another reading from that woman ? Yes.

She gave me information, the information I was meant to know. That man was a total dillhole, but he was a man I very much needed to meet. I can't really explain it without getting into details I don't really want to discuss, but I will tell you this..... While I was upset, and although I hope I never run into him again, I am so glad I met him. And I am glad it's over.

He acted as a mirror I needed. After that "date" (it really wasn't) I suddenly realized all of the dating mistakes I've been making and it all became so clear to me how to deal with the next one. And I am glad I learned my lesson on someone that was never serious to begin with. And c'mon, he had the same name as my ex, so that should have been a clue.

When I was looking through all of his travel pictures before we met, he reawakened my passion to get out and travel to other countries besides the ones in Europe, to go see the world, to live life in the moment. And even though he was definitely not dating material for me, at least I knew that there were still men in the world that I am attracted to. That men that I am looking for do exist. It is so frustrating to go out in the world and not feel any attraction out there. For the past four years, I feel like I've been living in a bubble. So at least, I know that there are dudes out there I am attracted to.

So while he is out of the picture, my desire to be more adventurous and give love another try isn't.

I firmly believe that if you are looking for information, you will get information, and it may not be what you are looking for. But it doesn't mean it isn't useful.

Also, truthfully, if I am going to meet someone special, I wouldn't want to know when anyway. And I really think that the man above or "the universe" or whatever verbiage you want to insert, knows that. I don't want to know. I want it to be a surprise.

So that is my review. Take it for what it's worth.


mac said...

Dammit, I paid her to say a pale guy with a pink motorcycle would be your match ;-)

I went to a Palm Reader once. She was accurate in figuring what type of work I do. But, with my hands, it's kind of obvious I work with them, I think. Other than that, she was sort of general. She did say I should live well into my late 90s. That's on par with the men in my family :-)

I am amazed a woman as beautiful as you is still single !

mac said...

I would love to visit a hookah lounge with you :-)

Red Shoes said...

Hey you... I agree with your assessment of having to meet that fellow. We learn from all experiences in Life... the positive and the negative. If we are aware, we will get the message we are supposed to receive...

I posted once about a reading that my daughter and her Mom attended. She and I had two children. This woman for reading for my ex... was turning over some cards, and my daughter said she stopped and looked at her mother... and said... "You told me you had two children... I see three..." Let's just say that the reader was correct...


* Ashleigh * said...

Halloween guy?! Huh? You've never mentioned this guy before!

Sassy Sassy said...

Ugh, that guy WAS such a jerk! I'm glad you dumped him. I feel bad for whatever girl gives him a chance next. :o(

Holland said...

I can only say: Good for you, girl!
I went a few times to a reader but I never had a "good" one. Guess it is not for me.

Riot Kitty said...

Wow, what kind of an asshole says shit like that?

I admire that you can take away good information/knowledge and learn from a situation like that...I'd just be bitching and hitting a sex toy shop afterwards.


I've been here all along! lol

Big Mark 243 said...

Hmm... it is early Sunday morning in Omaha as I read your entry... and I am feeling you in the respect of how maybe the guy did not become a connection but a reawakening. Sometimes that is a big thing too.

I have not a clue as to who I will meet (to be perfectly honest, I have already 'met' her several times over, and if I don't see her again, I am good) to spend time with. But in a recent entry I spoke about the places that I want to see in the world... and I fully expect to make my way to them, dontcha know!

That is as important as actually meeting someone, having your spirit unencumbered by the possible chains of being in a relationship sprialing recklessly through your life. Trust me Sondra Dee, you will be better off in the pursuit of you than you will be worrying about who is next in your love life.

Whether your reader guides you to a love or not, I won't be surprise if you are in your full flower, dancing, traveling and competent (if not enjoying) your work. Often, I think love slips quietly into a person's life.

BTW, what a freakin' jerk this cat was... I have thought that the small gap gave you character and added to your beauty (the way that Ellen Barkin has a smoldering hottness that can't be quantified)and your exotic allure. Screw him.

You have a good head on your shoulders and you still have THAT sparkle in your eyes. Take it easy and keep doin' you! It will happen one day not because it is inevitable but because you are a wonderful girl and a wonderful cat is going to come and you both dance away together!!

*Juliette* said...

Knowing what you don't want is sometimes much more powerful than knowing what you want! Congratulations on your growth and thanks for sharing your experiences here - I always enjoy reading.

H said...

He sounds like a real douche bag, but like you say even douche bags serve a greater purpose.

I'd say watch out for smooth talking people, all that smooth hides the truth.

You should sleep with married guys (that was a joke based on your previous email)

Danielle said...

I am glad you are willing to give love another shot! It is going to be a good year for you!

Anonymous said...

The comments about the blinking often and the gap in your teeth was to lower your confidence so that you'd seek his validation and sleep with him in the process.

It's a tactic used by men who aren't confident in their own charm, and have to play dirty.