Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Why admit something like that ?

What's Up Buttercups ?

Let me just say that I hope I do not ever have a repeat of today. I am on new medication and holy crap. I blanked out in the shower. I saw white clouds, stars and my head started ringing like mad. I could not see or hear anything else. For a second I thought that I was having a Come To Jesus moment and that I was gonna meet my maker. And if I wasn't, I sure wished I did for about 30 seconds. Holy fucking shitballs ! I felt better for the rest of the day, but not because of the medication, but because anything else was better than that white cloud of hell. I was just thrilled to go about my day without any more incidents.

But I gotta give props to my dad. I called him because the doctor disconnected the phone, and my dad got me through it. He even offered to come and pick me up. I really have been feeling alone in this whole ordeal, and it was nice to know that my dad would have taken the four hour drive to take care of me. I wanted to call off work, but I didn't because I still have to make a living. I am glad I stuck it out. I had a decent day at work and kept busy.

But that is not why I am writing this blog entry.

I am writing because on the way home, they had a segment on the Latin radio station in Spanish and English about confessing. So basically, you call up and tell the world what bad habits you have, or show your closet skeletons. I was expecting someone to talk about their freaky sexual exploits. Or how they had sex on their boss's desk.

But some woman comes on the air and says that she only dates married men and doesn't like single men. She doesn't even sound remorseful. She's loud and proud and her reason for doing that is because she doesn't want the responsibility of cooking, cleaning and ironing for him. Hell, neither do I, but damn ! At least the men I've dated don't require me to do that. I didn't in my last relationship.

I am a woman so I know that the fastest way to getting judged and disowned by your own kind is to mention something like that. She must hate other women.

She got her ass chewed out of course by another female caller, she got called a homewrecker, una                "cualquiera" aka whore. The male announcer asked her if she felt bad, if she was breaking up a family, or taking another woman's man. She didn't feel bad because she said it was the man's decision to be with her.

How do I feel about it ?

I feel it's wrong, but the reason I decide not to be with married men is out of self-respect, not because I am thinking of other women or families. Other people do not factor into my equation. I feel that if I were with an attached man like that, I wouldn't be getting what I deserve which is someone all to myself, a healthy relationship, something we all deserve.

I also wouldn't hang out with a woman like her. I would just avoid her like the plague and so would my friends, even though they have wonderful husbands. Even though you may trust your husband, I still think it's completely foolish to stop occasionally keeping an eye on things. And lets face it, it gets tiresome having to have to constantly keep watching your back.

In my legal classes, my teacher always told us women to keep an eye on things, to be involved in the finances, to see where the money is going. Not necessarily tracking every penny, but knowing what is going on. My grandmothers have been loving women to my grandpas, yet remained involved in the finances. And when my Opa in Austria passed away, my Oma knew how to take care of herself. And when another man came along and tried to take advantage, she threw his ass out on the street.

Anyway, but the woman in question does have a point. The husbands she sleeps with made the decision to break their vows. As much as people want to hate her, she still owes nothing to the wife or children. It's the unfaithful husband that owes his wife and kids. The woman, although she should know better bears no responsibility to the wife and kids.

The way I see it, if a man is going to cheat, he will cheat.

Anywhooters, this post has gotten longer than I originally intended, so I am going to log off and take my meds.

Besitos !


* Ashleigh * said...

<-- had sex on boss' desk :)

This reminds me of our convo from the other day. I agree with you about the self respect and watching out for you and not the other girl. I guess for me, I think most girls have good intentions and I don't want to hurt people in general.

Miss you!


Hola senorita! It's good that you are back on the virtual block.

LL Cool Joe said...

Wow the white cloud of hell sounds pretty scary. Sweet of your Dad to offer to come and look after you. :)

Hope you are ok now?

Bev said...

Sorry you have been so sick! I hope you get well soon.

I agree with you wholeheartedly on the married man thing, especially the part about not wanting to share. We do deserve to have someone all to ourselves, and so do their wives.

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts said...

Hey, I hope you feel better really soon.

Your post just gave me an idea for a post I am going to write right now. Some of what you say I agree with 100% but others I disagree with but I know alot of women that feel exactly the way you do.

Get well soon my friend.

H said...

That medication sound scary as hell. Hope you get better.

The married man thing: If someone intentiional seeks out married people only that is horrible.

I think our society does not emphasize the difference between sex and love enough.

This will sound like a cliche, and probably piss people off but like all cliches they are born from truth. "A man is biologically programmed to spread his seed".

Allot of the men who don't "cheat" like having an full blown affair, go to topless bars, or hire prostitudes, why do you think that no matter where you are in the world, Topless bars, nude bars and prostitution do such a triving business.

It's not because guys who can't get laid go there, its because "they" go away after the sex is done.

Fuck it I am going to post a blog about this.

Glad your back

BamaTrav said...

One pill makes you large and one pill makes you small and the one's that mother gives you don't do anything at all.

Ibhade {NG} said...

Glad you are feeling better...pls take care huh?..


Self-respect is good.


I tell you, in Nigeria, many homes are broken everyday by these 'HOME-WRECKERS' who are out for the pleasure & money!

mac said...

I agree, to a point.
If I had a wife and she was fooling around, I would be more upset with her than the guy (or other girl?).
Unless it was a buddy. He should know better than that shit. I'd be pissed at them both.

I hope your reaction was merely temporary, a matter of adjusting to the medication. Thinking of you having that happen scares me and makes me sad :(

Am besten Wunsche fur die Gesundheit, schon

Riot Kitty said...

Wow. First of all, I hope you are feeling better - side effects are a bitch!

As for the cualquiera...geez. Boasting about stuff like that is amazing. I am a relatively private person so I just don't get when people want to share this crap anyhow.

As for not wanting to be married because she doesn't want to be Donna Reed...Mr. RK and I split the chores. And we do not own an iron!

Sassy Sassy said...

Hm. I totally see your point about the husband bearing most of the responsibility. After all, HE is the one betraying his family.

But, she is responsible too for enabling him.

Look at it this way... it's not your fault if someone is an alcoholic. But, if you are directly supplying them with the alcohol, then you are ENABLING them in their vice, and that does bear some responsibility too. :o(

Fireblossom said...

Sounds like rationalization to me. Her real reasons are probably something tiresome like commitmentphobia or latent hostility or some such. Aren't there plenty of men who would go for a limited relationship, but who are single? Too scary for that lady, I'll wager.

Yes, the men have their own stuff to answer for, but that doesn't let her off the hook, to me. Lots of us have been with married people, but get real about the reasons, if you're going to shout about it. (dumb idea in the first place, isn't it?)

Danielle said...

I don't agree that it is only his fault. A lot of times those women search out a vaunerable man. Still his choice, but women like that know whet to say and do and when to do it!