Thursday, March 18, 2010

What was the best advice you were given ?

Hello My Little Genies,

So........ we are all fortunate somehow, even when we are going through difficult phases. Someone is usually looking out for us, or has our best interests at heart at some point in our lives.

What was the best advice you were given ? Or what did your parents teach you that stuck with you and served you well later on in life?

1.) My parents raised me against soda and junk food. It's the best thing that could've ever happened to me as a child. I battle my fat ass ( there are large people in my family), but nothing compared to what others are going through out there because their parents helped them cope with stress through junk food and didn't encourage exercise.

In my opinion setting children up to lead unhealthy lives as obese adults who will have to battle food addictions is a form of silent abuse. With that comes low self esteem, and more health problems which is a deadly combination.

I mean, if your parents constantly ridicule you or tell you that you're no good, you can turn around and say that your parents psychologically abused you and that's why you don't believe in yourself. And people would sympathize with you. What you can't do is say that your mom abused you because she fed you chocolate cake everytime you were sad and watched tv with you instead of encouraging you to sweat it out. People would think you're certifiable and proceed to wish they had a mother who brought them food.

2.) My parents made me work out extra hard. They enrolled me in martial arts, and even though it wasn't my favorite, we were always working out whether it was boot camp training, martial arts, running, or doing outdoor activities.

I started at a young age (five), so even though I may get lazy there is still that muscle memory to remind me that I can push a lot harder and make it.

3.) My dad taught me the importance of being frugal and paying my bills on time. I see a lot of adults who don't even know what a credit report is, and I can't imagine not knowing the financial basics. Many people actually grow up and have no clue and their credit is thrashed before they even know what it is, and that is sad.

Okay, so I've told you mine which are basic, but important nonetheless. Time for you to SPILL................................

14 comments:

Christine Macdonald said...

When a guy likes you, you know.

mac said...

My Mama always said,
"Always treat a lady with respect."

And, I do...just maybe a with a slightly different view of respect than what Mama meant ;-)

UBERMOUTH said...

Very good post,Senorita.My Mother raised us to be too honest, question everything and look beyond the obvious.

Secretia said...

I was taught by an older aunt years ago to not think that I knew everything, and that I should always let people who are mad at me say all that they want to without interruption, that I might learn some truths about myself by doing so. It has proven to be sound advice.

Secretia

Paul Nichols said...

Not THE most important, but Mr. Martin taught me the importance of a firm handshake. A firm handshake has served me well. I passed that wisdom to my son, too.

Ms. Jenni [xo] said...

My mom always told me, "Don't be in such a rush to grow up!" I wish I had listened to her. And I plan on telling my kids the same thing.

I like all of your examples. Especially #1! I was raised kind of middle of the road - we ate healthy, but on weekends my mom and I would turn into little junk food junkies. In the last few years I have outgrown that habit.

My oldest daughter is 5 and struggling with a little chunkiness. Of course, she has some medical stuff going on right now, and her doctor is trying to decide if weight gain is part of that.

But I have changed her eating habits. Less dairy. More fruits and veggies. And I cracked down on my mom sneaking them out to eat.

Bev said...

My father was my mentor until he died a year ago, so choosing just one piece of advice that he gave me is difficult. I think his main advice to me was always to not sweat the small stuff. I'm a big worrier by nature, so he would urge me to let the little things go and try to focus on the big picture instead.

My mother taught me to have faith that whatever is supposed to happen will happen, regardless of whether I worry about it or not. That's a lesson I still struggle to incorporate into my life each day.

dadshouse said...

It's like college app essay day! I'm pretty sure my daughter had to answer a question like this. I wonder what advice I gave her that she actually found useful.

Best advice I got: don't do something that will screw up the rest of your life.

Mike said...

I still remember when my cousin told me, "You know you're old when the girls in Playboy are younger than you." Gawd its freakin' true.

MindyMom said...

The only person you can really trust is yourself.

Ain't that the truth?

Danielle said...

Open the doors for elders and give up your seat for them too. Act like a lady and you will be treated like one.

Zsuzsi said...

There is nothing in the world that you cannot do.

Well, I'm sure there are some kind of limitations, but I'm also certain that I would never have experienced nearly as much without the support of my parents.

Jon said...

As a part of principle we never had many channels in our TV. So I had no other choice but to read....so got a good reading habit even today.

But sadly sports were never encouraged...so we kids have always been athltically weak!!

Red Shoes said...

Hmmm... something about some analogy between Life and it being like a box of chocolates...

My Mom used to tell me that I worried too much... that most of what I worried about would never happen... and that what did happen, I would be able to manage it... cope with it... and for the most part that's been true. She didn't tell me how hard it would be to get over her death... or the death of my Dad... but I made it just the same...

~shoes~