Thought Provoking stuff

Hello Everyone :)

Of course the words below aren't mine. They are from a woman named Angela. http://journals.aol.com/readmereadyou/MyThoughts/ and that is her journal. I don't know her personally, but I sure like reading what she has to say. This is what she had to say on August 17th:

Of course it is important to have both male and female role models for children but today, I want to talk about dads and daughters. I think fathers have an enormous amount of influence on their little girl's entire lives by the way they treat their own wives, as well as their little girls.    

I don't know how many men read these journals but I'm hoping at least one man out there will read this and think about his actions and reactions to his wife and to his daughter and how these behaviors are going to effect his daughter's entire future. Yes, future.    

You may feel love for your wife and daughter, but aren't showing it as you should. If you compliment your wife and daughter, your daughter, as a teen, won't look for validation all too soon in the eyes of teenaged boys. If you hug and kiss your little girl affectionately, she won't be found in the back seat of a car at 16 with the local Romeo because she wanted your affection so badly and you never gave it to her. If you shout your way through life, she may find herself one day in the grip of an abusive boyfriend or husband.    

If you don't pay enough attention to your wife, don't take the time to listen to your mate or your daughter, your daughter will marry someone just like you. No, not the best of you but the worst of you. She'll marry a someone who doesn't care if she's hurting inside or happy for that matter. Why? Because it will be all she's ever really known and the type of man she will think she deserves subconsciously. Oh, her first attraction to the guy she will one day marry will have all of your good points orthe good points she wished you had.....but, her unconscious self will pick someone with all of your faults. Why? Because she never got to resolve those issues with you. Subconsciously, she will pick the traits she wanted to fix in you and will try to fix them as an  adult with  her mate and she will fail....And, she will be unhappy. You don't want that to be.    

It's a proven fact that girls with close father/daughter relationships, marry good men or may marry later in life. First, they aren't in any rush because they feel whole and when they do marry, it will be for the right reasons; not to fill voids within....Prove it to yourself. Just look around at the women you know. Do you know one with a great husband? If so, you will find a great dad or father figure who gave her just what she needed, and as an adult, she will expect the same treatment from her mate and get it. Conversely, a woman in a bad or unfulfilled marriage, will expect or receive very little from her spouse and not get much from him in terms of emotional security, or whatever else her father deprived her of, if her dad were emotionally or otherwise unavailable to her. I know you don't want to see your little girl growing up and, one day, finding herself in a joyless marriage. It really doesn't have to be that way. Spend consistent quality time with your daughter and your wife. It is your life's work! Give your daughter a bird's eye view of how a woman (wife) is supposed to be loved and treated by the man in her life. First, you, her father, set the example and she will have the proper judgment and tools to choose a good husband in the future.    

You say you do treat your wife and daughter very well! Then, that's really great. You won't have to wonder when you see your daughter walk down the isle who she's marrying, because she will be marrying you.....The best of you. The you that only she knew behind closed doors; the you who treated her mother like a valued woman and her like a valued daughter.

These words hit very close to home and explain thoroughly why I chose the menI do. I love all of my parents dearly ( I also have stepparents) and don't really care to talk about my childhood here. However, I still couldn't ignore these words.